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A Quiet Saturday

August 14, 2004 |

:cld: We stayed close to home today and just enjoyed the time together as a family. It’s funny how Jeff has become so much more of a homebody since I met him 13 years ago. I tease him now that he set me up.

When we started dating he made it very clear that there were certain things he enjoyed participating in and that he would never want to give them up. He is an avid fly fisherman and loves the solitude of hiking through the fields to find the perfect secluded fishing hole. He also hunts but rarely bags anything. Again it’s the quiet isolation of the woods he enjoys more than anything else.

As the years have progressed and we have built a family together, Jeff has been spending less time hunting and fishing and more time at home. The funny part is that I never asked him to choose us over his earlier pursuits. I never tried to make him feel guilty for the amount of time he spent away. I gave him his freedom as I would expect him to do in return. My reward? A father that doesn’t feel he has to be with his wife and children; instead a husband that wants to be home.

There’s a famous quote that we’re all familiar with, although probably in slight variation “If you love something, set it free; if it comes backs it’s yours, if it doesn’t, it never was.” I guess Jeff was mine all along.


Comments

6 Comments so far

  1. weebie on August 15, 2004 5:15 pm

    Yes how true that comment is, and you are a very blessed woman indeed!

  2. Hula Doula on August 15, 2004 6:08 pm

    Are our husbands related??? Mine was the same way! That’s great that he chooses! (so does mine)

  3. VJ on August 16, 2004 12:45 pm

    Sounds like you have a jewel there. Angelo is also a home person.

  4. Marcia on August 16, 2004 4:44 pm

    Right about the time our kids were born, my husband seriously toned down his sports-watching. On his own, no nagging from me. You’re right, it works better when people make the decision on their own to be with their family.

  5. Philip on August 19, 2004 11:32 am

    That says a lot about you and the home/life you’ve built for your family and spouse. It also says a lot about him; it’s tough to get guys to change.

  6. Kristine on August 20, 2004 11:18 pm

    And that is a great thing for your daughters to see–how you let your husband be himself, and he chooses to hang around because he wants to! :)

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