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On Edge

September 18, 2005 |

I am so tense today I just might jump right out of my skin. My Mom and Dad are due to arrive any minute and I have been racing around all morning like a mad woman trying to clean the house so as to remove anything that might cause my mother to make one of her comments.

My mother is one of those people that always have something snide and judgmental to say about everyone and everything she encounters. No one and nothing is ever good enough and I know that no matter what I she will always find something to pick about.

They came down to our place on Friday to drop off firewood for us from my Dad’s stash, and my mother took it upon herself to go around my yard and put my children’s bikes away and move all of their toys to the back yard so the front yard wouldn’t be so “unsightly”. When they called Friday evening there was no inquiry about Jeff’s hand and how he was doing after surgery, only the question of whether I had noticed what she had done. I said “yes” and “thank you”. But she couldn’t let it drop there, she went on and on about how badly it needed to be done etc…

She forgets that she has never been a full time working mother of 4. She was a SAHM to 1. There is a big difference. But she will never understand.


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  1. cassie-b on September 18, 2005 2:03 pm

    4 children and a full time job. That equals more than 2 full time jobs. My hat’s off to you. And why does anyone care if the bikes aren’t in the “right” place and a couple of toys are out.

    She doesn’t understand.

  2. Aimz on September 18, 2005 5:47 pm

    Jules I use to have the same sort of issues with my own mother. The kids bikes etc would be out on the lawn - she’d put them away. She’d nag us about what needed to be done etc - everything just like yours. I mean my mum is really a nice lady but very intrusive sometimes so I had to sit down with her a few times and explain to her the boundaries which were that although I appreciate her as my mother I didn’t like her interfering in the way I run my house. At first she didn’t like it and had a temper-tantrum but with being consistent over time she’s now backed off. you might need to do the same. Don’t be afraid to say how you feel, she won’t like it but that’s the way it is.

  3. mrs diamond on September 19, 2005 11:01 am

    yikes… how rude.

    but hey, why bother running around stressing out about it. just leave it for her to do when she comes. bwahahaha.

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