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Outcome

September 16, 2006 |

It’s over.

They found him. The way I thought they would. Dead in the woods not far from where he dumped his truck. There’s relief, guilt for the relief at the death of another human being and sadness. For all of them.

Sadness for the woman that was killed. Sadness for the way he ended their lives. And ultimate sadness for their 3 children. Every time I think of those children, tears well up in my eyes and I have to choke them back. Ages 13, 7 and 6 months. They lost both of their parents in a 24 hour period and in such a horrifying, sensationalistic manner. How do you grow up defined by that? As children whose father killed their mother and then himself? Then I get angry and think how could he do that to his children?

I live my life very conscious of how everything I do, good and bad, will directly impact my children. Everything. How can people… I can’t even find the words because I am at such a loss to understand how things get that bad. How do you, as a parent and a spouse, let things get that far? It didn’t happen over night, the police have confirmed that they had been to that house on numerous domestic calls. This outcome was almost inevitable without some sort of more permanent intervention. But how could anyone do that to their children?

I know this is going to sit with me for a long time to come. I feel like I can’t quite shake the upset and uneasy feeling that surrounded the events of the last couple of days. It was too close to home - way too close for comfort. In a lot of ways.


Comments

5 Comments so far

  1. cassie-b on September 16, 2006 12:08 pm

    So sad for the children.

    Cas

  2. Mary on September 16, 2006 2:05 pm

    something similar happened here last week.

    A man stabbed his wife to death in front of their 2 year old.

    They were estranged and she had a protective order against him.

    He ran off and hasn’t been found yet.

    You just wonder about people sometimes.

  3. mrs. diamond on September 17, 2006 11:24 pm

    Oh that is soooo sad. And how COULD he do that to his kids? I’m glad you guys are all ok.

  4. Becky on September 19, 2006 6:28 pm

    What a terrible story…my thoughts are with you and your family.

  5. Katie on September 25, 2006 10:35 am

    Some people are so selfish… My heart goes out to the children.

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