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The Wedding

March 17, 2004 |

:snflk1: Happy St. Patty’s Day my friends. I’m sorry I haven’t posted sooner. We got home from the wedding very late Saturday night and I had a ton of stuff to do Sunday and ,well, I’ve just been in a funk ever since.

We arrived in town for the wedding around 8:30pm Friday night after driving on nasty, slippery, snow-covered roads with an 11 month old that screamed for most of the 4 hour ride. *sigh* My sd (stepdaughter) had been calling to see when we got to the hotel and came over shortly after we checked in. She was excited and nervous and happy, so very happy. And her mother, the POS Elvira bitch from hell (this is my blog and about the only place I can describe her as she deserves, only she deserves worse), was there at the hotel too. And wanted us to bring the kids over to her room for cocktails and a happy reunion. In her fucking dreams.

Let me give you quick background - this woman abandoned her daughter when the child was 8 months old and played mental torture head games with her for the rest of her childhood. Things like not being home when we showed up to drop sd off for visitation. Moving without telling us. Leaving 7 year old sd home alone with a 2 yo and an infant while she went partying and came back with bf strung out on heroin brandishing a gun. A thief, a liar, a junkie, a drunk and a fraud. But I digress.

Fade to Saturday, we get ready in our hotel rooms and decide to head over to the hall that the civil ceremony is in. Her “mother” is laying it on thick about how wonderful sd is and what a great job we did raising her *wah, wah, wah, wah* to which my husband responded “yeah no thanks to you”. She has the nerve to get all huffy and ask “Why’s everybody so fucking hostile all the time?” Gee I wonder.

Ceremony begins and sd looks beautiful and is beaming as Jeff walks her down the aisle. And I can’t help it, the tears well right up in my eyes and I’m crying. Crying over how beautiful she is and how grown up and how I can’t believe she’s getting married. And for all she has put us through, I love her. And I lament for all that we’ve gone through and how I wish things could have been different and her life could have been easier and happier and that I wish we could have done better with her and given her more so she wouldn’t have always felt like something was missing. But we couldn’t give her the one thing she always wanted; her mom. And I realized how much I miss her, she lives 4 hours away, and how we don’t talk anymore and I’m so sad that things have turned out this way. She’s one of my children and yet has barely anything to do with us anymore and it totally breaks my heart.

The rest of the day went well with us avoiding her mother as discretely as we could and being more than civil for sd’s sake when we have to. My sil asked at one point if I put Vaseline on my teeth. LOL She’s so funny. Day ends and we decide we just want to go home and that’s just what we do and I haven’t stopped thinking about sd ever since. And how I hope she’ll be happy and finally build the family for herself that she feels she never had. *sigh*

Oh yeah, sd called Jeff Monday night. Her mother ripped off her apartment while sd and her new husband were at the hotel Saturday night. Real piece of work isn’t she?


Comments

5 Comments so far

  1. monileigh on March 17, 2004 7:58 pm

    Hiya hon. I about cried with you about sd. Sorry the pos was such a bitty. I cannot BUHLEEVE the witch stole from her own daughter! What a sicko!!! Makes me mad! **sigh** Anywho, gotta run. Hang in there and Kudos to you for being such a great mom!

  2. Cathy on March 18, 2004 4:20 am

    :crazy: People like that make me so mad! grr. Some mother! Good for you for being good :D

    I’m sure you two will be talking tons more once your sd starts her own family and is full of questions, hopefully sooner then later.

    (hugs)

  3. Shona on March 19, 2004 9:38 am

    WOW, sounds like a real piece of work. . I don’t understand that at all. How can you rip your own daughter off like that. . how sad!!

    TGIF, have a great weekend *hugs*

  4. Michele on March 19, 2004 10:33 am

    The wedding sounds beautiful but how sad that it all ended on such an unhappy note.

  5. Candi on March 21, 2004 6:45 pm

    Hugs to you!! Such a big day for everyone. I can’t imagine how you felt. But the mother, OMG!! What a lady. Well she really isn’t a lady huh? lol

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